Monday, July 2, 2012

Charity and Self Reliance- Love your Neighbor or Stay your Hand?


I often hear well-meaning people state that while they know we are commanded to love our neighbor and to care for the poor and needy- there comes a point where we MUST stop doing so, because otherwise people will never learn to care for themselves, to be self-reliant.

I suspect that this line of thinking (which is very popular in the LDS culture) comes from believing that we have two contradicting commandments- love your neighbor (and your enemy) and be hard working, industrious and become self-reliant.  My guess is that in an attempt to “balance” these two commandments we logically assume that we should first, be charitable.  We offer our care and concern and temporal help once, twice, three or four times.  But at some point we feel like we are being taken advantage of if the need is ever present.  And so we “stay our hand” and justify our action (or lack of action) by “balancing the scale”- and tell ourselves, “I will no longer help this person, they need to learn to be self-reliant!”


I believe this is NOT how the Lord intends us to apply these commandments.

The Greatest Commandments

The Lord tells us that the second Greatest Commandment (second only to loving the Lord) is to love our neighbor.  [Mark 12: 30-31]  He even emphasizes how to PRIORITIZE the commandments when he says in verse 31 “There is none other commandment greater than these.”

                30) And thow shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy mind, and with all thy strength: this is the first commandment.
                31) And the second is like, namely this, Thou shalt love they neighbor as thyself.  There is none other commandment greater than these.

Who is my Neighbor?

When the Pharisee asks “Who is our neighbor?”  The Lord tells the parable of the Good Samaritan and the extreme measure he went to, to care for a man lying injured and weak on the side of the road. He tell us to “go and do likewise”.  [Luke 10:29-37]

Love your Enemy

In Matthew 5 we learn that we also need to love our enemy.  Who is our enemy?  One of the definitions of an “enemy” that the Savior gives is those that “despitefully use you”.  He admonishes us to remember that by only loving those who “love us back” we gain no reward.

                43) Ye have heard that it hath been said, Thou shalt love thy neighbor, and hate thine enemy.
                44) But I say unto you, Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which despitefully use you, and persecute you;
                45) That ye may be the children of your Father which is in heaven: for he maketh his sun to rise on the evil and on the good, and sendeth rain on the just and on the unjust.
                46) For if ye love them which love you, what reward have ye?

When Peter asked Jesus how many times we should forgive our enemy- the Lord told him “seventy times seven”.  [Matt 18:22].  This is not to be taken literally as 490 times, but an infinite amount of times.

Do not Judge those whom you Serve

In Mosiah 4:16-19 we receive further instruction from King Benjamin.  King Benjamin understands the natural man.  He states,

17) Perhaps thou shalt say: The man has brought upon himself his misery; therefore I will stay my hand, and I will not give unto him of my food, nor impart unto him of my substance that he may not suffer, for his punishments are just-

King Benjamin tells us that THIS is something that we need to repent of.  Once we decide to “stay our hand” because we feel that he has “earned” his situation, we are judging the person.

                18) But I say unto you, O man, whosoever doeth this the same has great cause to repent; and except he repenteth of that which he hath done, he perisheth forever, and hath no interest in the kingdom of God.

He then reminds us that we ALL depend on God for everything that we have.  He has provided it ALL.  It ALL belongs to Him and He has commanded us to impart of our substance that we  have unto one another.

                19) For behold, are we not all beggars?  Do we not all depend on the same Being, even God, for all the substance which we have, for both food and raiment, and for gold and for silver, and for all the riches which we have of every kind?
                20) And behold, even at this time, ye have been calling on his name, and begging for a remission of your sins.  And has suffered that ye have begged in vain?  Nay; he has poured out his Spirit upon you, and has caused that your hears should be filled with joy, and has caused that your mouths should be stopped that ye could not find utterance, so exceedingly great was your joy.
                21) And now, if God, who has created you, on whom you are dependent for your lives and for all that ye have and are, doth grant unto you unto you whatsoever ye ask that is right, in faith, believing that ye shall receive, O then, how ye ought to impart of the substance that ye have one to another.

Verse 21 makes it pretty clear to me that it is offensive to God for us to ask for blessings for ourselves- whether they be health, healing or temporal items, if we are not imparting FREELY of all that we have to those who are in need.

Lastly, King Benjamin teaches us that if we are going to judge our neighbor and “stay our hand”, how much more will be our condemnation.

                22) And if ye judge the man who putteth up his petition to you for your substance that he perish not, and condemn him, how much more just will be your condemnation for withholding your substance, which doth not belong to you but to God, to whom also your life belongeth; and yet he put up no petition, nor repent of the thing which thou hast done.
                23) I say unto you, wo be unto that man, for his substance shall perish with him…

What about Self- Reliance?

Latter Day Saints have a long heritage of being industrious, hard-working and self-reliant.  This is a very good thing, but I believe it’s value and proper application gets erroneously applied when it comes to caring for the sick, hungry and poor.

                In 1936 the First Presidency outlined a welfare plan for the Church. They said: “Our primary purpose was to set up … a system under which the curse of idleness would be done away with, the evils of a dole abolished, and independence, industry, thrift and self respect be once more established amongst our people. The aim of the Church is to help the people to help themselves. Work is to be re-enthroned as the ruling principle of the lives of our Church membership” (in Conference Report, Oct. 1936, 3).  [Handbook 2: Administering the Church; Purpose of Church Welfare]

It is important to note that the above paragraph above is in regards to the purpose of the Church’s Welfare Plan.  The purpose of the plan IS to help make people more self-reliant in both spiritual and temporal matters.  The Bishop and Stake President are stewards over the Bishops’ Storehouse and have access to Fast Offering funds.  They are charged with being a Judge in Israel to dispense of these items as they are guided and directed by the Spirit.  They are also charged with helping others become self reliant.

Furthermore in  the Section of Handbook 2- Purposes of Church Welfare- under the topic of Self Reliance-

Self-reliance is the ability, commitment, and effort to provide the spiritual and temporal necessities of life for self and family. As members become self-reliant, they are also better able to serve and care for others.
Church members are responsible for their own spiritual and temporal well-being. Blessed with the gift of agency, they have the privilege and duty to set their own course, solve their own problems, and strive to become self-reliant. Members do this under the inspiration of the Lord and with the labor of their own hands.
This Section of  Handbook 2 goes on-

Members’ Efforts to Care for the Poor and Needy and Give Service
Through His Church, the Lord has provided a way to care for the poor and needy. He has asked Church members to give generously according to what they have received from Him. He has also asked His people to “visit the poor and the needy and administer to their relief” (D&C 44:6). Church members are encouraged to give personal compassionate service to those in need. They should be “anxiously engaged in a good cause,” serving without being asked or assigned (see D&C 58:26–27).  Members can also help the poor and needy of all faiths throughout the world by contributing to the Church’s humanitarian efforts. Providing in the Lord’s way humbles the rich, exalts the poor, and sanctifies both (see D&C 104:15–18). 

President J. Reuben Clark Jr. taught:  “The real long term objective of the Welfare Plan is the building of character in the members of the Church, givers and receivers, rescuing all that is finest down deep inside of them, and bringing to flower and fruitage the latent richness of the spirit, which after all is the mission and purpose and reason for being of this Church” (in special meeting of stake presidents, Oct. 2, 1936).

Self Reliance is a Charge to US- we are NOT to use it to JUDGE another

In conclusion, the charge to be self-reliant is a commandment for us.  We should do all that we can to be prepared to care for ourselves and our families in both the short and long term. But we should never “stay our hand” and in doing so judge another- in order to make someone else “self- reliant”.  They have their agency and will be judged by the Lord based on their knowledge, environment and ability.  When we “stay our hand” we judge another, and will suffer the condemnation of the Lord.  When we give freely we obey the Lord’s second greatest commandment- Love thy Neighbor as thyself

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